If you’re creating a sex room or looking to add something new to your old one, we have just the thing for you!
A BDSM cross is way more than meets the eye. Let’s find out what makes it so incredible, convenient, and beginner-friendly.
What Is a BDSM Cross?
This cross is probably not what you’re imagining. It ain’t the crucifix hanging on your grandma’s wall!
However, even if you’re brand new to the BDSM community, we’re sure you’ve heard of it. Consider this piece of dungeon furniture a very beginner-friendly bondage bed. Except, well, it’s in the shape of an X-cross. It’s essentially a bondage frame that allows for the safe restraining of one’s arms, legs, and waist/torso.
It might not fit in seamlessly with your other type of furniture, even if you’re religious. So, make sure you stash it safely into your brand new BDSM dungeon!
Why Is It Called St. Andrews and Why Him?
You did read that right. This type of cross is also called the St. Andrew’s cross. You’d be right to assume that this name comes from Christianity, more specifically one of Jesus’ apostles — Saint Andrew.
But why him and not any other apostle? St. Andrew was sentenced to death by crucifixion, the same way Jesus died. However, he felt he wasn’t worthy to die in the same way. So, he asked for a “diagonal” cross instead.
This cross is what we can see on the flag of Scotland, for example, because St. Andrews is their patron saint.
What Are They Made Of?
Think about it. Once you’re up on the sex cross, it’s not only the bonds that hold you up. The cross itself needs to be sturdy enough to support your weight and whatever else goes on.
So, what can this type of BDSM furniture be made of? If your first guess is wood, you’re entirely correct. However, what if the wood doesn’t fit into the vibe of your new sex dungeon? There are other options.
As far as sturdy materials go, crosses can be both metal and stainless steel. These materials might be great for potential temperature play, as they can be quite cold. Still, they can be a bit pricier than the wooden ones.
If you want to go really fancy, crosses can also have padding for maximum comfort. With all of the unthinkable things that are going to happen, some comfort may not be a bad thing.
Why Is It a Must, and How Do You Use One?
So, let’s first talk about why having this type of sex furniture is a must. Some things might be obvious, but let’s mention them anyway.
First and foremost, let’s talk about symbolism. As we know, a cross has tight ties with Christianity, so where better to put something like that than a BDSM room? You know, where all the sinning is happening.
Secondly, if you enjoy bondage plays, you’ll need some piece of furniture like this anyway. Beds can often be large and take up a lot of space your room may not be offering. Plus, a cross can be better for accessing all the points that a bed might hide.
Lastly, a bondage cross is extremely beginner-friendly. You don’t need to be setting it up or buying any extra parts for it. Sometimes, they can fold, too, meaning they’ll save up even more space if your space is limited. We’d say that they definitely win versus a bondage bed any day.
How Do You Use Them?
Oh, this is the part where we get to tell you that the world is your oyster! We won’t stop talking about how beginner-friendly this piece of furniture is because there isn’t much you can’t do with it.
When it comes to restraining, you can choose which way you want to face. You can face the front, back, or even upside-down if you’re skilled enough! That’s the first of many positives of having a cross. Another thing is that they can come with plenty of loopholes, which means you can restrain someone any way you want.
But what about the BDSM toys you can use? Nothing is off-limits, really. You can use any sex toy known to man or just stick to your own hands (for spanking, pinching, etc.). When it comes to BDSM accessories, we recommend paddles, floggers, nipple clamps, whips, and just about whatever else you can think of.
In case your cross comes on a spinning wheel, you’re in luck! That means you can put someone in any sex position you desire. Be careful because it’s easy to get spin-happy and make the other person nauseous.
Safety Precautions
In BDSM, it’s all too easy to cross the safety line. That’s why there need to be rules and precautions.
When it comes to having and using a cross, you need to ensure it’s as sturdy as possible. If you can, fix it to a wall. That means it won’t come loose if you or your sub start struggling on it. The cross falling can be both dangerous and potentially lethal for everyone involved, so that’s the first thing to keep in mind.
Once you’re all set on that, the standard BDSM play procedure should follow. Having a safe word is a must to ensure that every type of BDSM play goes smoothly.
Clean your cross after each use, even if it’s just going to be one person using it. Aside from all of that, your plays should be quite fun and go without a hitch.
Conclusion
Having a BDSM cross ensures you’ll be having plenty of fun in your new (or old) BDSM chamber. This is the type of sex furniture that simply calls to those who enjoy bondage plays. Not only that, but it will save you a lot of space, which is very convenient if you are limited by space. We definitely think it’s a good investment.