Choosing the Right Restraint for BDSM Play

BDSM might be all fun and games, but having the right toys and accessories certainly isn’t. Choosing what’s right for you might seem like child’s play, but there are numerous things to keep in mind when looking for that special new gadget. 

Luckily, we have just the kind of guide you need. Picking the right restraints will be a breeze!

Restraint Play

If you’re new to the BDSM scene, restraint play is something you should definitely try. This type of play is also known as bondage. Well, at least to a certain degree. However, it does work similarly to bondage, as it’s all about restraining the person in question. 

This is the type of play you can incorporate with any other BDSM activities. Literally, whatever you can think of! Whether it’s sensation play, role play, sub/dom, or S&M, bondage goes well with anything. 

So, how does it work? It’s really as simple as you would imagine. You can tie someone’s hands up with a scarf and call it hand restraint. However, there are many accessories made exactly with this purpose in mind that you should use instead. It all comes down to the kind of restraint you want to have on you or somebody else. 

Everything Should Go Well With Your Sex Room

When designing a sex room, you need to make sure that everything goes well together. We’re not talking only about aesthetics, though that plays a big role in setting the mood. 

Having a sex room means having some BDSM furniture too. When it comes to bondage, those include walls, BDSM crosses, bondage beds, etc. All of these provide insane amounts of fun. However, not all restraint accessories go well with all of them. 

What does that mean? Well, you can’t really have a leg restraint but nothing to attach it to. The same goes for any other type of body restraint. Some of the furniture will have attachment points designed especially for this, so you should acquire accessories accordingly. 

Once you figure all of that out, you’re free to move on to the next step — choosing the right restraint for you. 

See this tips on how to build your own sex dungeon.

Questions to Ask Yourself

When it comes to choosing the right restraint for the type of BDSM play you’ll participate in, there are numerous factors to consider. Whatever you can think of is what you should take into consideration. We’re mainly talking about things like which parts of your body you want to be restrained, how do you want restraints to feel, what activities you want to do, etc. 

Still, how does asking yourself questions like that help you choose? It’s pretty straightforward. It will allow you to narrow everything down and, ultimately, find the restraint of your dreams. Luckily, we’re here to help you out with that, so let’s get to it! 

1. What Do You Want to Restrain and Where?

This is merely a question of which part of your body you want to tie up and where. Besides the obvious — your hands and feet — you can also find head restraints. So, choose according to your liking. 

Speaking of where to do it, it all comes down to the furniture you have (or will have) in your sex room. Find your furniture’s bondage points, mix with your restraint of choice, and voila! You should have a pretty good picture of the type of stuff you’re looking for. Those can be rope, shackles, cuffs, tape, pieces of fabric, etc.

2. What Material Do You Want?

When it comes to materials, it’s all about how comfortable you want to feel. Most of the time, restraints are made of leather. This material is quality, comfortable, and molds according to the wearer. So, you’ll know that it won’t wear out quickly, so you don’t have to worry about replacing them.

On the other hand, there are other available materials, such as nylon, cotton, fur, etc. Most of the restraints will have some sort of lining on the inside to make them more comfortable. Still, you can always go hardcore and opt for cold steel. 

3. What Types of Activities Do You and Your Partner Want to Try Once Restrained? 

Now we’ve reached the fun part. Let’s talk about the activities you and your partner want to do once the restraints are on. What are your options? They’re endless, especially in the BDSM community. 

Restraint play can end with just that — restraining and sex. However, you can add so much more to it to spice it up. You can use different sex toys and mix up other types of BDSM plays, like impact play, temperature or edge play, Domination/submission scenarios, or any other kind of kinky sex you can think of. Of course, the type of restraints you have should correspond with the play you want to execute.

4. Will They Make for a Nice Display in Your Sex Room? 

Some people love to put their accessories up for display. That’s especially the case when they have a sex room. Everything inside should set the mood, and the same goes for your accessories. 

Think about the kind of vibe you want to achieve, and pick your restraints accordingly. You can even have two different sets. One purely for aesthetics and display, while the other you’ll use on your partner whenever they’ve been bad. 

Consider Your Safety

With all of that in mind, there are still more things to consider. The most important thing is being safe, no matter the price. You never know when an emergency will arise. Imagine being restrained on a BDSM cross, and suddenly your partner faints. What will you do? What can you do? That is why you need restraints that are easy to get out of. 

When it comes to materials, metal might appeal to many because it’s so hardcore, right? That might be the case, but the possibility of, say, a neck injury is all too real. On the other hand, silk bondages seem safer. However, that might not always be the case. They’re all too easy to tie, but also they can tighten with movement and cut off circulation. 

The bottom line is you should avoid restraints that cannot be adjusted, as well as be careful with neck restraint and head restraint. Not only can they harm you, but some people are claustrophobic too. Never forget to come up with a safe word beforehand and perform aftercare on your partner, no matter how harmless you thought your play was. 

For those who are into breath restraint play, see these tips to ensure your safety.

Conclusion

The world of BDSM is sure fun, and it comes with many ways to satisfy yourself and your partner(s). If you’re into bondage or restraints, choosing the right accessory is quite important. Not only to serve their purpose but because you want everything to look good and fit within your new sex room as well. Choose carefully!

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